When February 14 rolls around, it can fill some single people with dread, especially if they would prefer not to be single. It need not be that way. Whether you have your eye on a certain someone or if you’re open to wider possibilities, there are steps you can take to be proactive in bringing love your way on the most romantic day of the year.
Do you have a group of friends who are also single? Put your heads together and organise a singles Valentine’s Day party to be held at a local pub or any other public place of your choosing. The idea here is that each of your friends invites another friend or two who is also single. Before long, there will be a group of people enjoying the evening together, and if luck is on your side, you may be introduced to someone you will want to see again on a personal level. Also, if you are already a member of an online dating website, many of them have postings for local singles activities. There may be a dance or other group event out there which would interest you.
This is not a day to spend alone. If you’re not into the group get-together scene, call a friend or someone else you really care about and plan to spend the evening together. Valentine’s Day is about all kinds of love, not just love of the romantic variety. Sharing an evening out with someone else will help you appreciate all of the relationships in your life, and you can revel in the love of the sweethearts you see around you.
Perhaps there is someone you admire and have kept him or her at a safe distance as your crush. Now is the perfect time to change all that. Take a risk and let them know you are interested. You could do this by sending a card in the mail or a small gift such as chocolates or flowers to their home, if you know them well enough to know where they live. If you’re not quite that acquainted, but this is someone you see on a regular basis, you might just have to blurt it out and ask if they are free for dinner on Valentine’s Day. Sure, this can be a scary approach, but it will let you know where you stand and hopefully you won’t be in the same position by next February 14.
Maybe you have gone on a few dates with someone and you’re each not sure how the other feels or where the new friendship is going. If you like them and would like to move things along, Valentine’s Day offers the perfect excuse for bringing up all things romantic. Be the first one to contact them on this day just to let them know they have been on your mind. From there, an invitation to a romantic dinner out would seem perfectly natural.
Whatever you decide to do on Valentine’s Day, remember that in the end it is just another day and try not to put too much pressure on yourself or the object of your affection, if there is one. It’s also good to keep in mind that after you have expressed your feelings or put forth an invitation, it is up to the other person what they want to do with it. If they turn you down, keep your chin up and remember there is always next year.